Hi Angelos,
Everyone feels insecure in bed from time to time...
...and I’m NOT just talking about questioning your size, or worrying about not getting a hard on.
After all, sex can make even the most confident person feel vulnerable and exposed.
And it doesn’t matter if you’re sleeping with girl for the 1st time, or getting intimate with long-time lover…sex is almost ALWAYS nerve-wracking!
I mean, you have so many things to worry about…
Does your body look okay that day?….Will you be able to satisfy?…Is she bored?…Will you live up to her expectations?
Don’t worry, these thoughts are TOTALLY normal.
But lack of confidence is also the #1 cause of bad sex…and perhaps the BIGGEST turn off for any woman!
Because when a girl sees you doubting your body or your performance…she’ll end up doubting you too.
But, if you ACT like a rock star — bold, self-assured, fearless, and in control…
She’ll won’t have any reason to look for flaws or short-comings.
In fact, whatever you do lack — like if you don’t have the ‘perfect’ body, or if you don’t know a lot of ‘advanced’ sex techniques — she probably won’t even notice…as long as you give the ILLUSION of confidence.
Seriously — if you just act like you’re ’God’s gift to women’…she’ll believe you really are.
And more importantly, if you get in the habit of acting like you’re 'The Man'…after a while YOU'LL start to believe it too!
And when sexual confidence becomes second nature…sex will feel easy, relaxing, and just plain more FUN every time you f*ck!
Of course, I ‘feeling confident’ is easier said than done…
So here are 3 easy tricks for getting into the mindset of a sexual HOT SHOT…
And they’re GUARANTEED to help kick those those nagging insecurities out of your sex life!
1. REFRAME
Make a mental list all the BAD things that could happen…and then find something positive about each one!
Here are some examples…
“She won’t like the way I look naked” becomes:
“Women are insecure about their bodies too — even more so than men. So when she sees my flaws, she won’t feel as embarrassed about her flaws…and that will make her loosen up and unleash her WILD side…
…which is going to make for some AMAZING sex!”
“My cock might not get hard” becomes:
“If I don’t get hard, it’ll give me a chance to show her how great I am at eating pussy…which she’d never let me do if I had a raging boner!”
“I won’t make her orgasm” becomes:
“That’s a perfect opportunity to show her I’m the most attentive lover she’s ever had…Because when I’ll ask her exactly what she need me to do — then do it until she CUMS — she’ll be blown away by my commitment to her needs!”
You can do this with literally ANY negative scenario you think of…and it’ll help you to quickly conquer your fears!
2. REDEFINE
What is ‘reality’ anyway? There is no way to define it, because every person's reality is DIFFERENT…
...and at the end of the day, your reality depends on YOUR perception of the world around you.
And that means you can actually CHOOSE what you want your reality to be — after all, if no 2 person’s reality is ever same anyway…why not?
So, let’s say you’re worried about not being as good in bed as other guys your girl has been with...
Well, in your new reality: All of her exes were PATHETIC in bed!
Even if she’s TOLD you that she’s been with some very skilled lovers…
In your new reality: She’s just saying that to make you jealous…because she’s scared of losing the BEST lover she’s ever had (you!).
Or if you’re self-conscious about some part of your body…
In your new reality: That’s the part of your body that turns her on the MOST…in fact, she has a fetish for your ______ (spare tire, hairy chest, short stature, or anything else you’re insecure about!).
It sounds silly at first…
But if you practice thinking about things the way you WANT them to be — instead of focusing on what they might be in another person's 'reality'...
Eventually, your perspective will permanently shift…
And soon the reality you want, will become the reality to actually live in...and that's a reality in which you're always THE MAN!
3. REFOCUS
At the end of the day, sex is about one thing and one thing only…PLEASURE!
And yes, it’s about her pleasure as much as it is your pleasure — but keep in mind:
She won’t be able to enjoy the experience, if she knows you’re not fully enjoying it too...
Because great sex is an EXCHANGE of positive energy.
So if you’re too busy worrying about the mechanics of getting her off…
Or you can't relax and be present (because your thoughts are consumed by insecurities or self-doubt)…
She’ll KNOW you’re not getting much pleasure out of the experience…
…because you'll be transfering your negative thoughts and anxiety to your partner, INSTEAD of the positive energy she needs.
And when that happens, none of the things you do with your cock, or fingers, or tongue will matter one bit — she will NOT get off.
So the best thing you can do in bed is to clear your mind…and just focus on all the wonderful sensations around you!
The sight of her body…the erotic smell of her arousal…the feel of her body pressed tightly against yours…
Concentrate on how good it feels to be doing what you’re doing…WHILE you’re doing it.
And DON’T think about anything that’s in the past — or hasn’t yet happened.
Basically…just relax and enjoy YOURSELF;)
And that’s it — believe it or not, bedroom confidence all depends on these 3 simple rules!
In fact, these are same 3 rules that helped me to come out of my shell when I first discovered sex…
And I guess they worked SO well…that I became confident enough to start doing it on CAMERA haha=)
So imagine what they’ll do for you!
XOXO,
Shawna
Everyone feels insecure in bed from time to time...
...and I’m NOT just talking about questioning your size, or worrying about not getting a hard on.
After all, sex can make even the most confident person feel vulnerable and exposed.
And it doesn’t matter if you’re sleeping with girl for the 1st time, or getting intimate with long-time lover…sex is almost ALWAYS nerve-wracking!
I mean, you have so many things to worry about…
Does your body look okay that day?….Will you be able to satisfy?…Is she bored?…Will you live up to her expectations?
Don’t worry, these thoughts are TOTALLY normal.
But lack of confidence is also the #1 cause of bad sex…and perhaps the BIGGEST turn off for any woman!
Because when a girl sees you doubting your body or your performance…she’ll end up doubting you too.
But, if you ACT like a rock star — bold, self-assured, fearless, and in control…
She’ll won’t have any reason to look for flaws or short-comings.
In fact, whatever you do lack — like if you don’t have the ‘perfect’ body, or if you don’t know a lot of ‘advanced’ sex techniques — she probably won’t even notice…as long as you give the ILLUSION of confidence.
Seriously — if you just act like you’re ’God’s gift to women’…she’ll believe you really are.
And more importantly, if you get in the habit of acting like you’re 'The Man'…after a while YOU'LL start to believe it too!
And when sexual confidence becomes second nature…sex will feel easy, relaxing, and just plain more FUN every time you f*ck!
Of course, I ‘feeling confident’ is easier said than done…
So here are 3 easy tricks for getting into the mindset of a sexual HOT SHOT…
And they’re GUARANTEED to help kick those those nagging insecurities out of your sex life!
1. REFRAME
Make a mental list all the BAD things that could happen…and then find something positive about each one!
Here are some examples…
“She won’t like the way I look naked” becomes:
“Women are insecure about their bodies too — even more so than men. So when she sees my flaws, she won’t feel as embarrassed about her flaws…and that will make her loosen up and unleash her WILD side…
…which is going to make for some AMAZING sex!”
“My cock might not get hard” becomes:
“If I don’t get hard, it’ll give me a chance to show her how great I am at eating pussy…which she’d never let me do if I had a raging boner!”
“I won’t make her orgasm” becomes:
“That’s a perfect opportunity to show her I’m the most attentive lover she’s ever had…Because when I’ll ask her exactly what she need me to do — then do it until she CUMS — she’ll be blown away by my commitment to her needs!”
You can do this with literally ANY negative scenario you think of…and it’ll help you to quickly conquer your fears!
2. REDEFINE
What is ‘reality’ anyway? There is no way to define it, because every person's reality is DIFFERENT…
...and at the end of the day, your reality depends on YOUR perception of the world around you.
And that means you can actually CHOOSE what you want your reality to be — after all, if no 2 person’s reality is ever same anyway…why not?
So, let’s say you’re worried about not being as good in bed as other guys your girl has been with...
Well, in your new reality: All of her exes were PATHETIC in bed!
Even if she’s TOLD you that she’s been with some very skilled lovers…
In your new reality: She’s just saying that to make you jealous…because she’s scared of losing the BEST lover she’s ever had (you!).
Or if you’re self-conscious about some part of your body…
In your new reality: That’s the part of your body that turns her on the MOST…in fact, she has a fetish for your ______ (spare tire, hairy chest, short stature, or anything else you’re insecure about!).
It sounds silly at first…
But if you practice thinking about things the way you WANT them to be — instead of focusing on what they might be in another person's 'reality'...
Eventually, your perspective will permanently shift…
And soon the reality you want, will become the reality to actually live in...and that's a reality in which you're always THE MAN!
3. REFOCUS
At the end of the day, sex is about one thing and one thing only…PLEASURE!
And yes, it’s about her pleasure as much as it is your pleasure — but keep in mind:
She won’t be able to enjoy the experience, if she knows you’re not fully enjoying it too...
Because great sex is an EXCHANGE of positive energy.
So if you’re too busy worrying about the mechanics of getting her off…
Or you can't relax and be present (because your thoughts are consumed by insecurities or self-doubt)…
She’ll KNOW you’re not getting much pleasure out of the experience…
…because you'll be transfering your negative thoughts and anxiety to your partner, INSTEAD of the positive energy she needs.
And when that happens, none of the things you do with your cock, or fingers, or tongue will matter one bit — she will NOT get off.
So the best thing you can do in bed is to clear your mind…and just focus on all the wonderful sensations around you!
The sight of her body…the erotic smell of her arousal…the feel of her body pressed tightly against yours…
Concentrate on how good it feels to be doing what you’re doing…WHILE you’re doing it.
And DON’T think about anything that’s in the past — or hasn’t yet happened.
Basically…just relax and enjoy YOURSELF;)
And that’s it — believe it or not, bedroom confidence all depends on these 3 simple rules!
In fact, these are same 3 rules that helped me to come out of my shell when I first discovered sex…
And I guess they worked SO well…that I became confident enough to start doing it on CAMERA haha=)
So imagine what they’ll do for you!
XOXO,
Shawna
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